We live in a world where fad body trends are a thing. I don't like it, but it is what it is. One thing I think all women can agree on is that we are constantly working to improve ourselves. We want to read more or become more cultured, or workout to improve our health, or whatever. We like craft projects, and our life is our favorite one.
Preying on our need to always be improving ourselves, the internet has churned out different body fads that we should feel the need to aspire to. We have to aspire to SOMETHING, right? I guess?
So enter the big 3 right now:
The Thigh Gap:
|ugh this makes me literally sick, but I will get to that...|
and The Collar Bones:
I have to admit, I have fallen prey to the last one. I am not exactly sure when in my life I "realized" that collar bones were beautiful, but I have idolized them since at least high school, because I have never had them.
And that makes me sad! That I was a 15 year old girl wishing that my bones protruded out of my chest and that having that would somehow make me more beautiful.
Creating such cut and dry standards of beauty for women is not doing anyone any favors. I am sure there are women out there with all 3 of these "unicorn" level qualities and that is spectacular! I hope that they LOVE their body.
But there are also women, like me, who have ZERO of these qualities, and that is also SPECTACULAR and I hope that they too love their body.
But to base your self worth and beauty on such arbitrary things as these is what makes it a problem. It's not that people who have them are more or less beautiful than people who don't, it's the obsession. It is one thing to strive to be healthier and stronger and improve those things, but it is another for a perfectly healthy and strong person to HATE her body because her bikini touches her pelvis when she lays down.
Granted, the Bikini Bridge thing started as a hoax. Which I think just goes to further prove my point. Some users of 4chan posted different pictures and even made a tumblr to see how fast it would catch on. And guess what. We are just DYING to know the next trend in unrealistic body obsession, so it caught on pretty fast. That makes me so sad. There are so many young women out there that cling to these ideals of beauty and don't realize that beauty is not on the outside at all. Having a gap between your thigh will not make you happy. Not saying that if you have a gap you can't be happy, but if you hate yourself and your thighs along the way to achieving that gap, once you get it you won't be happy. The hate and dissatisfaction toward your body will be so deeply rooted that at that point you will find something else to hate.
So my message is this.
Your body is beautiful exactly as it is. You are beautiful exactly as you are. Once you love your body and yourself for it's faults and imperfections, you can truly improve upon it with the right intentions. Until then you are attacking something that you hate with hate, and that will only bring, you guessed it, more hate.