Operation Skinny Jeans: Thigh Gaps, Bikini Bridges and Collar Bones

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Thigh Gaps, Bikini Bridges and Collar Bones

Oh my!


We live in a world where fad body trends are a thing. I don't like it, but it is what it is. One thing I think all women can agree on is that we are constantly working to improve ourselves. We want to read more or become more cultured, or workout to improve our health, or whatever. We like craft projects, and our life is our favorite one.

Preying on our need to always be improving ourselves, the internet has churned out different body fads that we should feel the need to aspire to. We have to aspire to SOMETHING, right? I guess?

So enter the big 3 right now:

The Thigh Gap:
ugh this makes me literally sick, but I will get to that...
The Bikini Bridge:

and The Collar Bones:

I have to admit, I have fallen prey to the last one. I am not exactly sure when in my life I "realized" that collar bones were beautiful, but I have idolized them since at least high school, because I have never had them.

And that makes me sad! That I was a 15 year old girl wishing that my bones protruded out of my chest and that having that would somehow make me more beautiful.

Creating such cut and dry standards of beauty for women is not doing anyone any favors. I am sure there are women out there with all 3 of these "unicorn" level qualities and that is spectacular! I hope that they LOVE their body.

But there are also women, like me, who have ZERO of these qualities, and that is also SPECTACULAR and I hope that they too love their body.

But to base your self worth and beauty on such arbitrary things as these is what makes it a problem. It's not that people who have them are more or less beautiful than people who don't, it's the obsession. It is one thing to strive to be healthier and stronger and improve those things, but it is another for a perfectly healthy and strong person to HATE her body because her bikini touches her pelvis when she lays down.

Granted, the Bikini Bridge thing started as a hoax. Which I think just goes to further prove my point. Some users of 4chan posted different pictures and even made a tumblr to see how fast it would catch on. And guess what. We are just DYING to know the next trend in unrealistic body obsession, so it caught on pretty fast. That makes me so sad. There are so many young women out there that cling to these ideals of beauty and don't realize that beauty is not on the outside at all. Having a gap between your thigh will not make you happy. Not saying that if you have a gap you can't be happy, but if you hate yourself and your thighs along the way to achieving that gap, once you get it you won't be happy. The hate and dissatisfaction toward your body will be so deeply rooted that at that point you will find something else to hate.

So my message is this.

Your body is beautiful exactly as it is. You are beautiful exactly as you are. Once you love your body and yourself for it's faults and imperfections, you can truly improve upon it with the right intentions. Until then you are attacking something that you hate with hate, and that will only bring, you guessed it, more hate.

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  1. Love this! I will admit to being obsessed with collar bones. They are one of the things I judge my weight loss by...which is just silly. Who cares how prominent they are? I never waste any time thinking about the other two though.

  2. I completely agree with you! Every body is beautiful! And the thigh gap, especially in the photos in you used, looks kind of disgusting.

  3. A couple of comments on this post, one-I noticed my collar bones are now visible after having lost 60lbs, I think they feel weird :/ -two-here's the thing, I think I am beautiful no matter what size, but I look better without all that weight on my face and on my body, does that make me some trend chasing idiot? No, and the side benefit to losing weight and exercising is the glow I have because of how I treat my body now -three-thigh gap, no matter how skinny one gets, some times genetics plays into it and thigh gap just ain't gonna happen. I have come to the understanding that no one will EVER look at me and say "look at that woman, she is petite!" It just won't ever happen, I have broad shoulders, wide hips and big boobs, that doesn't lend itself to the petite look lol

    When we as women, really just take ourselves for all that we are and what we can and can't be, the less these body "trends" will affect us.

  4. Great post. I'm as guilty as the next for wanting all of these things, but if you don't love yourself already, you'll never be happy. I think sometimes we forget, we are enough. :)

  5. Love this post!!! I had no idea about the bikini bridge. I still don't quite understand it, lol. Ahhhh well.

  6. I had no idea about the bikini bridge. I still kinda don't understand it but ohhhh well.

  7. I am happy to say I have never heard of the bikini bridge!! Everyone (regardless of weight!!) is shaped SO incredibly different!! Some folks no matter how thin they get will never have a gap in there thighs! It really is all about your bone structure and muscle structure. I definitely agree that we all need to focus on ourselves and being the most beautiful version of that rather than some one else.

    how boring would it be if we were all the same?!?!

  8. I love you and I love your posts. Every day I am loving myself even more and accepting my body the way it is. I am working on fitness and being healthier but I'm not working on getting to be size X. I think my body will eventually get to the natural place it's supposed to be so that I finally quit this yo yo nonsense for good. Being healthy (I think) is what we should all strive for instead of comparing ourselves to each other. We are all different and we are all beautiful!

  9. I needed this today. I am just struggling, struggling, struggling. I don't have that much weight to lose - but weight in my family is a big deal, so 5 pounds is like OMG. What I am trying to say is - thank you for this post.

  10. I love this post. As a curvy latino girl I have never understand the thigh gap. Is it because thighs rubbing together is a bad thing? What if you were just born with some powerful thighs. Yep That's me. I proud of those thighs they have moved mountains and I'm pretty sure they'll be sticking together for life. Ha! Great post girl

  11. I had no idea what the bikini bridge is, although I do aspire to have a thigh gap and my collar bones stick out. Unhealthy obsession? Yes. But, it does provide some motivation :-)

  12. I absolutely love this post! I am just glad that the fitness industry is turning more toward muscle on women now, verses just skinny! I remember when I use to just want to be skinner, now I focus on gaining muscle and sexy tone! No thigh gap, bikini bridge, or collar bones for me!

  13. thigh caps don't really exist unless you have no fat or muscle on your legs,or bent over slightly.

  14. I obsess over my collar bones a little bit! But mostly in a "wow, that's cool I can see them now" kind of way, not a measure of my worth way, luckily!


  15. I have a thigh gap (and powerful thighs too thanks!) but will never have a bikini bridge after two kids and separating my ab muscles. Women need to learn to love themselves and not put down others- I don't base my day around any of these things and I enjoy everything in moderation yet I still get negative comments about my weight. Having been on both ends of the spectrum it is really hard when you feel like people are constantly criticising you no matter how you look.


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