Operation Skinny Jeans: Don't even get me started...

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Don't even get me started...

on the thigh gap. One response to my blog on Friday about loving your body threw out the words "Thigh Gap." What the actual hell is the internet's fascination with this magical unicorn of body "perfection"??

I existed for 25 solid years before I discovered that it was a crime against humanity that my thighs touched. I had no idea that having a gap there was a thing of beauty. I don't even understand it. I will probably never have skinny thighs, and  I don't want skinny thighs. I want STRONG thighs. When I look at inspirational pictures, I am drawn to those of women who have thick, muscular thighs, not skinny stick thighs that don't touch. I want my legs to take me miles. I want my legs to squat my body weight. I want my legs to match the strong version of me I have in mind, not be stick thin have a thigh gap.

I guess my real point is WHY are we as women subscribing to this standard of beauty that is not physically possible for all of us to achieve. Thigh gaps are determined more by the width of your hips than the amount of work you put in. If you lose 100 lbs and your thighs still touch, will you be happy with your body? Is it really healthy to idolize a specific trait like a thigh gap and obsess over getting it? I think these are the questions you should be asking yourself.

Am I the only one who doesn't understand this? Do you worship the thigh gap? Explain it to me because I am boggled.

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Edit: I am by no means hating on women that do have a thigh gap, I just don't understand why it's something women hate that they don't have, get me? My point is just love your body. Improve it how you see fit, but still love yourself if you do or don't have a thigh gap. :D


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23 comments :

  1. I don't understand the thigh gap thing either. Most of the photos I find where people are fawning over the model's thigh gap make her look so weird- like her legs are detachable. It doesn't look normal, to me.

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  2. AMEN, Sister!!! I've just learned this new fascination, as well and when I even think about it, I kind of squish my face and say, "Really? Is that really desireable?" I'm not going to bust on anyone that actually has this phenomenon, but only add that I don't want one either - I want thighs that touch and are strong as hell :)

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  3. Last weeks post about shorts and owning (and loving our legs) inspired me to put on my first pair of shorts (other than pjs lol) in 18 years! While I haven't worn them in public yet, it's going to happen this weekend and I'm ok with it because it's just like you said.....what's the problem? Am I afraid I'm going to OFFEND someone? Not anymore! :)
    Thanks Jess!

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  4. Hmm. I'm somewhere in between. I would love a thigh gap because sometimes I find it uncomfortable physically that my thighs touch, but from a "beauty" standpoint ... I do not think having or not having a thigh gap makes anyone's body more or less "perfect" ya know?! :)

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  5. you go girl! I am not sure what the obsession is either. I did notice myself checking for the gap the other day in the mirror and wondered why I cared because I have worked hard.

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  6. Yeah I would love for my thighs to not touch because I get chub rub far too often. LoL!

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  7. I have very wide hips (for my size and whatever) so I have a thigh gap when i stand, but when i run and do some exercises, they'll still rub together and get "chub rub"... Just cause you have a gap, doesn't mean all those problems go away! I'm actually trying to gain some size in my legs via muscle, so when some people want even skinnier legs when they already are "skinnier" seems like the wrong direction, but I guess it's just because I have different wants and goals?

    A good combatant for chub rub is vaseline, by the way =] Also helps in sports bra areas, in case that's an issue too!

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  8. I was unaware of this until the 7th grade. Then my friend whispered to me at a sleep over that her (totally skinny) sister was upset because their grandma told her she needed to lose weight because her thighs were (barely) touching. She acted like she had contracted a deathly disease!

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  9. I wear compression shorts under my running shorts so that I don't get the chub rub on my thighs. But as far as thinking that I am less perfect because my thighs touch, NOPE...I don't feel that way! I LOVE my legs and are super proud of them. I get compliments and they are far from "perfect". :)

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  10. My boyfriend and I were talking about this over the weekend! We both agreed that strong, fit, and healthy women were what was beautiful. I really hope that the obsession over being super thin (and not fit or healthy) passes soon. We have a 4-year-old daughter that I desperately want her to see that strength, muscles, and curves are beautiful. I'm glad to see that so many women agree with this train of thought.

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  11. Really! Of all the things women have to worry about. Breast cancer, sun damage, reproductive health, parenting, working, marriage and all the things inbetween. My thigh gap has never entered my mind. It is what it is. I want to be healthy and my 15 year old daughter to have a great body image even if she doesn't have a "gap". Good lord ladies love yourselves not what society tells you is a standard of health and beauty!!

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  12. Wow, girlie, I didn't mean to offend you, but please take another read at my comment:

    "My problem with shorts wasn't an embarrassment issue or that people will be looking at my legs. I didn't like wearing shorts because they rode up between my thighs and I was constantly pulling them down. Then, I would get a rash between my legs where they rubbed together.

    Still have another 20 pounds before I get that infamous thigh gap and won't have to worry so much about this, but I am glad that I've lost as much weight as I have to be able to be comfortable this summer."

    Um, I'm pretty sure that what I meant was that I hated chaffing between my legs and if I have a thigh gap, I won't have this problem. Please don't take it out of context. I've always had red, itchy, rashy thighs because my fat rubs together. The reason that everyone talks about having this gap is so that you don't have to deal with this anymore!

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    1. Meh, you still have to deal with it, especially when running, working out, etc. What helps is vaseline, compression shorts (when running, under looser shorts if you prefer), and I think I've seen baby powder before!

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  13. Hi there~ I am new to your blog as of today! I am proud of you! You are doing great- who cares what others say- I am a size 14 and have chafing between my legs too! I am not perfect, I am working at getting healthy the best way I can! If you'd like to say hello, please stop by my blog www.lovelongtime.blogspot.com
    Have a fantastic day and stay positive!
    Jamie Harris

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  14. I've heard reference to the "thigh gap" I think it is as much of a big thing as big behinds in the hip hop world. However, I'm not striving to have a "thigh gap" but if strong legs present one than hey! I guess I'll become even more "beautiful"

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  15. I don't understand the thigh gap either. In my opinion it's not attractive. Like you just got off a horse or something.. I dunno. Whatevs.

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  16. This is by far my favorite post I've read on your blog!!!

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  17. I never really thought about it until now. At one point, I had never had a gap inbetween my legs. This has changed, but it never bothered me then. Now, I do have one and notice it; however, it is a reminder of my ED so I have to be careful with the situation.
    Thank you for sharing!

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  18. K.O. thanks for the tip - I also use Glide if I'm going to be wearing a dress or something, to prevent the chub rub lol. Yeah as a standard of beauty, ehhhhh. I know I'll never fret if my daughters' thighs touch. If they are healthy and happy and feel good about themselves that's what matters. And as far as vanity, there are many things I'll care about long before thigh gap, haha. :)

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  19. Hey girl. I was born with skinny legs and have almost always (except at my very biggest) had a thigh gap. And I can tell you from someone who has experienced this elusive "magical unicorn"... it doesn't make me feel skinnier, prettier, more in shape, or in any way better than anyone else. It doesn't make my chubby belly look any smaller, or my fat arms either. I do feel good though when I notice I can lift a little heavier weights or when my pants have a little extra room in the tummy because I've been avoiding the carb-filled, sugary junk! I've never been a big fan of my chicken legs because I felt they made me disproportionate. Since, I've learned to love them and appreciate the one part of my body that doesn't swell up when I'm off the healthy track. I have pumped them up a little with squats though and that was nice! Anywho, just wanted to say that I totally agree. Nobody needs a thigh gap to be happy, and that having one doesn't automatically make you love your body! But you already knew that! :) Keep it up pretty girl!

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  20. I don't want a thigh gap for sake of being skinny or pretty etc I want it so dont have to wear something to stop them chaffing when wearing a dress or skirt :)

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